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17 Aug

The following poem was forwarded by my mother no less and I thought it appropriate to share as I think the message rings true for most of us.

 

F A M I L Y

I ran into a stranger as he passed by,

‘Oh excuse me please’ was my reply.

He said, ‘Please excuse me too;

I wasn’t watching for you.’

We were very polite, this stranger and I.

We went on our way and we said goodbye.

But at home a different story is told,

How we treat our loved ones, young and old.

Later that day, cooking the evening meal,

My son stood beside me very still.

When I turned, I nearly knocked him down.

‘Move out of the way,’ I said with a frown.

He walked away, his little heartbroken.

I didn’t realize how harshly I’d spoken.

While I lay awake in bed,

God’s still small voice Continue reading

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How could I be so stupid? Friend or Foe…

14 Jun
Frankly darling, we don’t really want to be your friend

Intro to series

There seems to be a marked increase in the levels of romance stupidity. Reported cases of grown and independent ladies falling for silly boys, despite the fact they’re in their mid-to late-20’s are on the rise! Over the last few years, I have received calls from several female friends asking for my frank assessment of their various predicaments and I could not pass up an opportunity to open a can of “I told you so” whoopass. However as time passed, it became less about that and more about “why did you let it happen again?” Last night I spoke to a friend who had just crossed the line with a guy who she’d met a few weeks ago and thought he was going to be a friend for life. It was only afterwards when he said “Don’t pretend that you didn’t know what was going on!” did she realise her folly.

Relationships differ greatly from one to the other as the dynamics of people in each change the game for better or worse. However there are certain fundamental principles and pitfalls which form a common denominator for all relationship problems which I’ve heard. I have therefore decided to write some short and greatly simplified articles on some of the most common relationship issues I’ve been privy to over time, from friendships to marriage. I begin with this most universal of scenarios – the new guy in your life who just wants to be “friends”. Continue reading

Know Not Me

28 May

You brought me forth into this world

With pain and joy which mingled

Like blood and water eventually the cord

Was cut, now separated and singled

You raised and fed and taught me all

The lessons that life had shown thee

Behind the flesh my spirit withdraw

It’s clear you know not me Continue reading

15 Smart Rules for a Healthy Relationship

17 May

To add a dose of sense and sensibility to Sentinel’s ‘Guerrilla Dating Tactics’, here are 15 (chivalrous) ways to keep your relationship working. Of course, there is no shortcut to bliss, but this’ll serve you right in 90% of cases.

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Love is a battlefield – the (men’s) rules of engagement

16 May

I sat across the table from a young man who had brought up an interesting question. The boy could have been no older than 21 and had started his first “real” relationship two years ago. However he had recently met somebody else and was now seeking the advice of the rest of the table as to how he should make his mind up about which one to keep. A few heads on the table had turned to me when the question was brought up. Those heads belonged to friends of mine, both male and female, who knew I had created my own little set of principles which govern what to do in this particularly dangerous front in the battle of the sexes. They also knew that I relished opportunities like this one to educate the little ones. Continue reading

The Gorgon Enchantress & The Maturing Mind

16 May

It was a wet and windy evening and I was speeding down the A406 cutting traffic like a butcher on my way to the cinema. After all my boasting about being the only black man who ever turns up to anything on time, I was actually running late – 10 minutes late, but late nonetheless. I already had my excuse. It involved being a shoulder to cry on for a distraught female friend who I could not leave to continue her relationship with a man who obviously did not appreciate her and treated her like property. It was my duty. Of course I could not tell her the real reason I was late – which was that after the phone call, my mum had sent me on an errand and had threatened not to let me eat anything she cooked unless I went and got her onions and palm oil. At 26, I somehow I did not think that would be a turn on for any girl – so the dutiful friend story would simply have to suffice. Continue reading