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Forgive ‘Em!

18 Feb

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Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins. 1Peter 4:8

I was recently called to reflect upon this verse after an unfortunate incident. I can’t go into the details for confidentiality but let’s just say I could have been justifiably angry.

In my pondering I came to a realization. It’s pretty simple and key to living a healthy life: I need to forgive this person.

I have seen enough vengeance films to know that getting that all so “sweet” revenge is short lived and  is honestly an empty pursuit so a different approach is needed but to get there requires some …. pain.

1. Acknowledge what has happened – For some of you this is easy – you’re mad right? For others you  may need to pause and allow yourself to be vulnerable for once, allow yourself to let it out and I talk of tears to be clear.

2.  Accept you are both in chains right now Them because they need your forgiveness and you because the anger/sense of betrayal/resentment/shame can never go away until you do.

3. Release them from their chains/ forgive them in your heart –  You have to let it go inside first before you can attempt to confront them. It won’t go well otherwise. How do you do that? Love. Love for your fellow man. The love that says “I don’t want you to do this to anyone else and I don’t want you to do this to yourself”.

When you care enough to want them to be free, you yourself can be freed too.

4. Tell ’em – Find a neutral place to meet and let them know that despite the hurt caused, you are ready to forgive. Then forgive ’em .

5. Set Healthy Boundaries – Don’t be foolish! Just because you have forgiven them does not mean there are not consequences. You have to protect yourself from potential repeat offence and also allows time for the healing process to work itself out.

Anyway, that’s my experience and I hope it helps some of you.

From the Pit of the Soul

10 Feb

I’m writing from a far away place, a place deep and dark and in isolation from others. A place with very little light at the moment. I am writing from the pit of my soul.

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Some of you know this place in your own way; some too well and perhaps too often.

For me, it is that place I often find ourselves in after the dreaded (yes you guessed it) breakup.

Why am I here? How did I get here and most importantly will I ever get out?

The answer is a resounding YES!

You see, if you were reading carefully you will recall that this is a place of very little light after all it’s a pit but there is light even if there is not much.

I really hope this speaks to someone. Regardless of your situation the light is always there; it might not be very strong, but it’s there and you know it. It’s that last shred of Hope you are holding on to. It just seems so far off though.

For me, I have come to a realization. This light is God. He is always there but I chose to dig further and further into the pit of my soul and all I found was darkness around me and yet God is still there with me.

Let me quote a Psalm 139 to illustrate:

Where shall I go from your Spirit?
Or where shall I flee from your presence?
If I ascend to heaven, you are there!
If I make my bed in Sheol, you are there!
If I take the wings of the morning
and dwell in the uttermost parts of the sea,
10 even there your hand shall lead me,
    and your right hand shall hold me.
11 If I say, “Surely the darkness shall cover me,
and the light about me be night,”
12 even the darkness is not dark to you;
the night is bright as the day,
for darkness is as light with you.

In knowing this we see that it’s us that run away from God yet He is never really far from us. He’s always there.

This may seem strange to some of you well because you might be thinking “How does this help my situation?” or “But I don’t believe in this God stuff..”

Please remember that in that pit you have but a small light, a small hope that hope is God – you might not know it but it is. Even in writing this I know in myself it is God. So the next step is faith.

You have NOTHING to lose at this stage, look around, there’s nothing but despair, but God has thrown you a rope. Maybe you never saw the rope before but now in this situation it’s pretty clear. Grab it, take hold of it and let God hoist you out of that pit to safety.

If you are willing to do a simple thing, to say a simple prayer I assure you your life will never be the same again. No matter how many times you find yourself back in that pit you will get hoisted right back out of it.

That rope is Jesus Christ. If you believe that He died on a cross for your sins he will save you. You will be saved. Now isn’t that great news! I know it sounds simple but the Bible even says “The word of the Cross is foolishness to those who are perishing but to us who are being saved it is the power of God” 1Cor 1:18

When you are down an’ out it’s the time to start being honest with yourself – things aren’t getting better by themselves, you need saving. On my personal journey I can say that no matter how low I get, knowing that God loves me and He has the power to change my situation always lifts me out of that pit. Now, enough pep talking let’s grab the rope.

All you have to do is say this prayer out loud and mean it. 

Dear God,

I’ve found myself in this pit, far from you. I’ve been living in a way that ignores you, doing my own thing. Now I see that you have always been there, never far from me and I have been living in sin; it’s why I’m in this place within myself. I believe that you sent your son to die on a cross to wash my sins away and save me. I now accept you as my saviour and Lord. Amen.

That’s it, you are now the newest member of the Kingdom of God!

No doubt if you prayed it and meant it you are feeling better but don’t ride the feeling train as our feelings go up and down, rather see what else God has to say about how much he loves you by digging into His word, find a good Bible teaching church and join a community of believers – I’m telling you if you meant it, your life will never be the same again! Trouble may come but your saviour will always lead you through it. Kiss goodbye to that pit!

Here are some resources to get you started:

http://elevationchurch.org/learn-more

Where to start reading from

The book of John

Take care and God bless you all!

Family

17 Aug

The following poem was forwarded by my mother no less and I thought it appropriate to share as I think the message rings true for most of us.

 

F A M I L Y

I ran into a stranger as he passed by,

‘Oh excuse me please’ was my reply.

He said, ‘Please excuse me too;

I wasn’t watching for you.’

We were very polite, this stranger and I.

We went on our way and we said goodbye.

But at home a different story is told,

How we treat our loved ones, young and old.

Later that day, cooking the evening meal,

My son stood beside me very still.

When I turned, I nearly knocked him down.

‘Move out of the way,’ I said with a frown.

He walked away, his little heartbroken.

I didn’t realize how harshly I’d spoken.

While I lay awake in bed,

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Podcast – Meeting of the Mindz Ep2 May ’10

1 Jun

So here we are again! This time it’s our very own Sentinel who leads the talk. I won’t steal his thunder, just listen in and enjoy!

Listen to this episode

You should also note that this episode was held in Tiger Tiger in London’s west end – a great place to hang out if you are in the area. As always, leave your comments below.

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Podcast – Meeting of Mindz April ’10

24 May

I know, I know, it’s May (at the time of posting at least) so why do we have the April podcast released so late? Well truth be told it’s been tough trying to find a section of our talk that was “web worthy”. 

The crew met up at a wonderful restaurant called Vapiano where we held our first recorded podcast. As it was our first, it took some getting used to but we finally managed to get into the mood. Ambassador4X  recites a poem just before the meal ….. 

Meeting Of Mindz – Apr 2010 

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A Poem from ODB

17 Apr

I like to read Our Daily Bread (see here for more info) and today’s poem was pretty good so I thought I’d share it with all of you: Continue reading